Do I have to be like this?

What’s your self-image? Are you too fat, too tall, too short, not clever enough? Or just perfect? All babies are born full of confidence with only two fears, that of falling and a fear of loud noises. They are an open book ready to be written. so who began to write your book? Mum and Dad, the church, friends or teachers?  At that early stage, we begin to construct our self image, based mainly on feed back and suggestion given to us. The subconscious mind, which is merely a most wonderful computer, stores the input, often misplaced useless information and often negative suggestions, like, you are stupid, you will never make anything of your life, you are useless! Or, if we are fortunate ,  You are so clever, we love you, you will be a great achiever. These inputs are taken as fact as they bypass the conscious mind’s ability to accept or reject information at that stage. Our parents are the main influencers as to the creation of our self belief or self esteem. It has to be acknowledged that they are a product of their environment and upbringing, so blame should not be too strongly applied to them. We learn so much about ourselves and life, mainly from the reactions of the adults around us. It’s often much later in life that we learn that we do really have a choice!  We are dealing with thoughts and feelings and beliefs, all of which can be changed. If we were highly criticised as children, then we will seek out those in our adult life who will duplicate this behaviour. So, you don’t have to be like this, you can change with desire and new belief and expectation.  Use affirmations, meditate on your self image, tell yourself, preferably last thing at night, I am O.K. Then be specific in addressing yourself with the image of yourself as you want to be. See yourself in present tense, actually now being how you want to be. Make the images strong and clear. You are reprogramming that subconscious computer, changing your primary belief structures. If you accept a limiting belief, then it will become truth for you. If this seems strange to you, put positivity into your behaviour, beliefs, actions, try it for a few weeks and measure the progress. Begin to take responsibility for your feelings and stop self criticism.                                                                                   How often if we make a mistake do we say how stupid we are, instead of realising what went wrong and learning from it. How often when we do well, do we praise ourselves! Not enough. Accept and create change, nothing in life is static!

We don’t have to live in the past, control the present and reconstruct your future – exactly how you want it to be! Call me if you wish to discuss any aspect of my blogs, after all they are only my thoughts!!! I am here for you.